Wednesday, February 24, 2016

#BOOK #REVIEW: Come As You Are; The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, PH.D.


WARNING: This book’s information, my review and the excerpt is intended for ADULTS 18 and up “ONLY” - NO ONE YOUNGER HAS ANY BUSINESS READING THIS! This book does use words regarding sex and the female body explicitly.  PLEASE DO NOT READ THE REST OF THIS DESCRIPTION, REVIEW, EXCERPT, OR ANY OTHER PART ABOUT THIS BOOK FROM THIS POINT ON IF YOU ARE NOT AT LEAST 18 OR IF THINGS OF A SEXUAL NATURE, OR COMING RIGHT OUT AND TALKING ABOUT SEX AND SEXUAL RELATIONS BOTHERS YOU, BECAUSE THIS ENTIRE BOOK IS ABOUT JUST THAT, LOVE, SEX AND SCIENCE.
THANK YOU.


MY TAKE:
5+++ STARS!!!
First thing right off the bat I want to suggest is to purchase the PRINT version of this book. I had a little difficulty getting around this book with it being an ebook. I don’t ordinarily read and write reviews about books like these only to have to go and post a REVIEW on my blog, in public, where EVERYONE knows me, too! Talk about embarrassing!!! Oh, Me OH MY, so here goes!!! Writing about books about sex can be and is extremely personal, but I urge you to share this extremely informative book with your friends and others, men, too! This book is NOT ONLY meant for women. If a man really wants to learn everything there is about women at all stages of their sexual life, this is THE book to teach them. Ladies, there is so much information in this book for US! We may think we know it all as we have our own body and have already experienced a lot, but this book has even more you would never or could never even guess about. 
I believe I may have received this book from a comment I may have left somewhere, and a publicist from Simon and Schuster has been kind enough to share this book with me! I thank them SO, SO, SO MUCH, to whoever you are! I have learned SO MUCH from this book, it’s kind of crazy! You would think a woman my age and done with menopause would already know ALL of this! I am being honest and telling everyone I did not! Now I have a whole NEW can of worms that opened up with menopause, as the saying goes! This book has helped tremendously with that, too! Again, this IS how thankful I am I 'did' get to read this book!  I tossed around writing a review about this book back and forth because of the feeling of embarrassment, but don't let that stop you from reading this OR from sharing it with your girlfriends, too. That is what pushed me on to write this review, to show you it's okay to talk about this and share the information from it. It truly would be a shame to miss out on ANY information in this book. If this book can help ONE person out there like it has helped me and so many others, then HERE IS EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO GET YOUR SEX LIFE AND MORE INTO THE SHAPE IT SHOULD BE IN! LIFE IS SHORT - ENJOY IT!!! THAT’S MY MOTTO!!! This author wrote an ENTIRE BOOK, and she does NOT think this is embarrassing, and you know what? It is NOT! It is REAL! It is true, it is HONEST, it covers a NORMAL HUMAN BODILY FUNCTION that just happens to feel really, really GREAT! With the teaching in this book, that feeling of GREAT goes to WONDERFUL, EXTREMELY, I CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT WHAT I LEARNED NOW!!! Another thing to keep in mind is in the future, this book may become helpful again. As we age, sex changes, and our bodies change. Sex is always changing, your body is always changing, and sex changes again! Over and over and over. It repeats, and sometimes NEW problems POP UP! The author covers EVERYTHING I think there is to be known about sex and more. I think every woman should read this book because of the information it has in it. 
So I found "the" book FOR WOMEN! THIS, IS IT! Then . . . NOT ONLY FOR WOMEN! MEN, YOU GET OUT THERE, TOO, AND GET YOUR HANDS ON THIS BOOK TO LEARN MORE ABOUT US, "WOMEN"! WE deserve to receive what this book has to offer us and you, what YOU deserve to LEARN to apply to us what you have learned from it! Men, those days of getting only what YOU want, then rolling over and going to sleep, snoring as LOUD as can be, FORGET ABOUT IT! Life is changing as you know it . . . RIGHT NOW!
I have to admit I HAVE done searches online looking around for a pill for women like me to have to be able to use just like the men do! I found NOTHING! WHY ARE THESE ONLY FOR MEN? I MUST say it again, “where IS the pill for women?” We should be able to have one of the pills, too, because menopause does a number on us! I found myself asking why is the PILL for MEN an exclusive ONLY for men? Being a woman past menopause, or postmenopausal as the physicians like to cram down our throats, like it or not, sometimes we women need a little extra, ‘Ooomph’! to get going, or I'll be honest and say that we need something MORE to GET us going when that has NEVER been an issue in the past. Our hormones have GREATLY changed, and to be frank, WE need a little help like the men do, too! In ALL my research for women, I've found absolutely NOTHING for women! NOTHING! Why? Although, why was I shocked? It seems as if ALL medical medication, testing and more is ALWAYS based upon MEN! Surprise, surprise I couldn’t find a THING about a pill or help for women! Instead, I found this book! A “book”, you say? Oh, boy! Thanks! No! Really! This book DOES HELP, IT DOES WORK!!! I promise! Read it! There is so MUCH “SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN” information in this book all about sex and regarding so MANY issues as we go through (as we age) and about so many different stages in our lives, as well as problems/situations we may come across, too. I feel this book is SO helpful for women even if you don’t think you have ANYTHING WRONG, it would STILL be a SHAME to miss out and not SHARE this book with all of you because it can only “HELP” us WOMEN in GREAT ways! Who knows? Maybe one day you WILL have one of these issues. You’ll be MORE than prepared for it with this book on hand! Or, if not, then you have this book at your fingertips to be able to read about it! As a last resort, if you purchase this as an ebook, NO ONE will know what you are reading about, either! LOL! Read away! Men, too! 
Sex is meant to be beautiful and to fill our lives with intimacy. We are sexual creatures. When there are problems, and they DO always happen, if you have read this book, or still have it and refer back to it, (that's the best part, referring back to it!) this book can only help you. So many times sexual issues are happening because of health issues we have no control over, or need to get control over. For instance, for men, if they don't work, then something is seriously wrong and they need to get in to see a doctor immediately! That's the truth. You don't just keep putting off sex until it's a year or longer since the last time. When things like that happen, it only starts to produce anger. Anger and sex don't go together, not even make-up sex. It's not worth it. The reason to have this book is EVERYTHING in this book applies to ALL of us women especially during many different times throughout our lives. I cannot sit on this information and keep it a secret all to myself and NOT write a review! So, here you go, and may the communication between you and your partner about your sex life “together” get better and better because that is where it starts, with communication. Without it, you may as well forget everything. Communication is VITAL in life with everyone you come into contact with, but MOST especially, our partners, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember, without communication, our spouses cannot read our minds, NOR can we expect them too when it gets right down to it.
Buy this book! You never know if you will need it in now or in the future. READ IT NOW, TOO! Having this book on hand puts you that much closer to having ALL your answers to ANY question at hand! You never know what you’ll learn, too, no matter what age you are! I truly mean that, too.
I received this book for FREE from the publisher, Simon and Schuster, in exchange to read and write a review about this book. It is NOT required for this review to be either positive or negative, but of my own honest opinion. "Free" means I was provided with ZERO MONIES to read this book nor to write this review, but to enjoy the pure pleasure of reading it. I am disclosing this information in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255, http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
 
Description
An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.


Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.


The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.


Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.


Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.


And Emily Nagoski can prove it.


EXCERPT:

Introduction

YES, YOU ARE NORMAL!

To be a sex educator is to be asked questions. I’ve stood in college dining halls with a plate of food in my hands answering questions about orgasm. I’ve been stopped in hotel lobbies at professional conferences to answer questions about vibrators. I’ve sat on a park bench, checking social media on my phone, only to find questions from a stranger about her asymmetrical genitals. I’ve gotten emails from students, from friends, from their friends, from total strangers about sexual desire, sexual arousal, sexual pleasure, sexual pain, orgasm, fetishes, fantasies, bodily fluids, and more.


Questions like . . .


• Once my partner initiates, I’m into it, but it seems like it never even occurs to me to be the one to start things. Why is that?


• My boyfriend was like, “You’re not ready, you’re still dry.” But I was so ready. So why wasn’t I wet?


• I saw this thing about women who can’t enjoy sex because they worry about their bodies the whole time. That’s me. How do I stop doing that?


• I read something about women who stop wanting sex after a while in a relationship, even if they still love their partner. That’s me. How do I start wanting sex with my partner again?


• I think maybe I peed when I had an orgasm . . . ?


• I think maybe I’ve never had an orgasm . . . ?


Under all these questions, there’s really just one question:


Am I normal?


(The answer is nearly always: Yes.)


This book is a collection of answers. They’re answers that I’ve seen change women’s lives, answers informed by the most current science and by the personal stories of women whose growing understanding of sex has transformed their relationships with their own bodies. These women are my heroines, and I hope that by telling their stories, I’ll empower you to follow your own path, to reach for and achieve your own profound and unique sexual potential.


After all the books that have been written about sex, all the blogs and TV shows and radio Q&As, how can it be that we all still have so many questions?


Well. The frustrating reality is we’ve been lied to—not deliberately, it’s no one’s fault, but still. We were told the wrong story.


For a long, long time in Western science and medicine, women’s sexuality was viewed as Men’s Sexuality Lite—basically the same but not quite as good.


For instance, it was just sort of assumed that since men have orgasms during penis-in-vagina sex (intercourse), women should have orgasms with intercourse too, and if they don’t, it’s because they’re broken.


In reality, about 30 percent of women orgasm reliably with intercourse. The other 70 percent sometimes, rarely, or never orgasm with intercourse, and they’re all healthy and normal. A woman might orgasm lots of other ways—manual sex, oral sex, vibrators, breast stimulation, toe sucking, pretty much any way you can imagine—and still not orgasm during intercourse. That’s normal.


It was just assumed, too, that because a man’s genitals typically behave the way his mind is behaving—if his penis is erect, he’s feeling turned on—a woman’s genitals should also match her emotional experience.


And again, some women do, many don’t. A woman can be perfectly normal and healthy and experience “arousal nonconcordance,” where the behavior of her genitals (being wet or dry) may not match her mental experience (feeling turned on or not).


And it was also assumed that because men experience spontaneous, out-of-the-blue desire for sex, women should also want sex spontaneously.


Again it turns out that’s true sometimes, but not necessarily. A woman can be perfectly normal and healthy and never experience spontaneous sexual desire. Instead, she may experience “responsive” desire, in which her desire emerges only in a highly erotic context.


In reality, women and men are different.


But wait. Women and men both experience orgasm, desire, and arousal, and men, too, can experience responsive desire, arousal nonconcordance, and lack of orgasm with penetration. Women and men both can fall in love, fantasize, masturbate, feel puzzled about sex, and experience ecstatic pleasure. They both can ooze fluids, travel forbidden paths of sexual imagination, encounter the unexpected and startling ways that sex shows up in every domain of life—and confront the unexpected and startling ways that sex sometimes declines, politely or otherwise, to show up.


So . . . are women and men really that different?


The problem here is that we’ve been taught to think about sex in terms of behavior, rather than in terms of the biological, psychological, and social processes underlying the behavior. We think about our physiological behavior—blood flow and genital secretions and heart rate. We think about our social behavior—what we do in bed, whom we do it with, and how often. A lot of books about sex focus on those things; they tell you how many times per week the average couple has sex or they offer instructions on how to have an orgasm, and they can be helpful.


But if you really want to understand human sexuality, behavior alone won’t get you there. Trying to understand sex by looking at behavior is like trying to understand love by looking at a couple’s wedding portrait . . . and their divorce papers. Being able to describe what happened—two people got married and then got divorced—doesn’t get us very far. What we want to know is why and how it came to be. Did our couple fall out of love after they got married, and that’s why they divorced? Or were they never in love but were forced to marry, and finally became free when they divorced? Without better evidence, we’re mostly guessing.


Until very recently, that’s how it’s been for sex—mostly guessing. But we’re at a pivotal moment in sex science because, after decades of research describing what happens in human sexual response, we’re finally figuring out the why and how—the process underlying the behavior.


In the last decade of the twentieth century, researchers Erick Janssen and John Bancroft at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction developed a model of human sexual response that provides an organizing principle for understanding the true story of sex. According to their “dual control model,” the sexual response mechanism in our brains consists of a pair of universal components—a sexual accelerator and sexual brakes—and those components respond to broad categories of sexual stimuli—including genital sensations, visual stimulation, and emotional context. And the sensitivity of each component varies from person to person.


The result is that sexual arousal, desire, and orgasm are nearly universal experiences, but when and how we experience them depends largely on the sensitivities of our “brakes” and “accelerator” and on the kind of stimulation they’re given.


This is the mechanism underlying the behavior—the why and the how. And it’s the rule that governs the story I’ll be telling in this book: We’re all made of the same parts, but in each of us, those parts are organized in a unique way that changes over our lifespan.


No organization is better or worse than any other, and no phase in our life span is better or worse than any other; they’re just different. An apple tree can be healthy no matter what variety of apple it is—though one variety may need constant direct sunlight and another might enjoy some shade. And an apple tree can be healthy when it’s a seed, when it’s a seedling, as it’s growing, and as it fades at the end of the season, as well as when, in late summer, it is laden with fruit. But it has different needs at each of those phases in its life.


You, too, are healthy and normal at the start of your sexual development, as you grow, and as you bear the fruits of living with confidence and joy inside your body. You are healthy when you need lots of sun, and you’re healthy when you enjoy some shade. That’s the true story. We are all the same. We are all different. We are all normal.

the organization of this book



The book is divided into four parts: (1) The (Not-So-Basic) Basics; (2) Sex in Context; (3) Sex in Action; and (4) Ecstasy for Everybody. The three chapters in the first part describe the basic hardware you were born with—a body, a brain, and a world. In chapter 1, I talk about genitals—their parts, the meaning we impose on those parts, and the science that proves definitively that yes, your genitals are perfectly healthy and beautiful just as they are. Chapter 2 details the sexual response mechanism in the brain—the dual control model of inhibition and excitation, or brakes and accelerator. Then in chapter 3, I introduce the ways that your sexual brakes and accelerator interact with the many other systems in your brain and environment, to shape whether a particular sensation or person turns you on, right now, in this moment.


In the second part of the book, “Sex in Context,” we think about how all the basic hardware functions within the context of your actual life—your emotions, your relationship, your feelings about your body, and your attitudes toward sex. Chapter 4 focuses on two primary emotional systems, love and stress, and the surprising and contradictory ways they can influence your sexual responsiveness. Then chapter 5 describes the cultural forces that shape and constrain sexual functioning, and how you can maximize the good things about this process and overcome the destructive things. What we’ll learn is that context—your external circumstances and your present mental state—is as crucial to your sexual wellbeing as your body and brain. Master the content in these chapters and your sexual life will transform—along with, quite possibly, the rest of your life.


The third part of the book, “Sex in Action,” is about sexual response itself, and I bust two long-standing and dangerous myths. Chapter 6 lays out the evidence that sexual arousal may or may not have anything to do with what’s happening in your genitals. This is where we learn why arousal non-concordance, which I mentioned earlier, is normal and healthy. And after you read chapter 7, you will never again hear someone say “sex drive” without thinking to yourself, Ah, but sex is not a drive. In this chapter I explain how “responsive desire” works. If you (or your partner) have ever experienced a change in your interest in sex—increase or decrease—this is an important chapter for you.


And the fourth part of the book, “Ecstasy for Everybody,” explains how to make sex entirely yours, which is how you create peak sexual ecstasy in your life. Chapter 8 is about orgasms—what they are, what they’re not, how to have them, and how to make them like the ones you read about, the ones that turn the stars into rainbows. And finally, in Chapter 9, I describe the single most important thing you can do to improve your sex life. But I’ll give it away right now: It turns out what matters most is not the parts you are made of or how they are organized, but how you feel about those parts. When you embrace your sexuality precisely as it is right now, that’s the context that creates the greatest potential for ecstatic pleasure.


Several chapters include worksheets or other interactive activities and exercises. A lot of these are fun—like in chapter 3, I ask you to think about times when you’ve had great sex and identify what aspects of the context helped to make that sex great. All of them turn the science into something practical that can genuinely transform your sex life.


Throughout the book, you’ll follow the stories of four women—Olivia, Merritt, Camilla, and Laurie. These women don’t exist as individuals; they’re composites, integrating the real stories of the many women I’ve taught, talked with, emailed, and supported in my two decades as a sex educator. You can imagine each woman as a collage of snapshots—the face from one photograph, the arms from another, the feet from a third . . . each part represents someone real, and the collection hangs together meaningfully, but I’ve invented the relationships that the parts have to each other.


I’ve chosen to construct these composites rather than tell the stories of specific women for two reasons. First, people tell me their stories in confidence, and I want to protect their identities, so I’ve changed details in order to keep their story their story. And second, I believe I can describe the widest possible variety of women’s sexual experiences by focusing not on specific stories of one individual woman but on the larger narratives that contain the common themes I’ve seen in all these hundreds of women’s lives.


And finally, at the end of each chapter you’ll find a “to-do” list—“too long; didn’t read,” the blunt Internet abbreviation that means, “Just get to the point.” Each to-do list briefly summarizes the four most important messages in the chapter. If you find yourself thinking, “My friend Alice should totally read this chapter!” or “I really wish my partner knew this,” you might start by showing them the to-do list.I Or, if you’re like me and get too excited about these ideas to keep them to yourself, you can follow your partner around the house, reading the to-do list out loud and saying, “See, honey, arousal nonconcordance is a thing!” or “It turns out I have responsive desire!” or “You give me great context, sweetie!”

a couple of caveats.



First, most of the time when I say “women” in this book, I mean people who were born in female bodies, were raised as girls, and now have the social role and psychological identity of “woman.” There are plenty of women who don’t fit one or more of those characteristics, but there’s too little research on trans* and genderqueer sexual functioning for me to say with certainty whether what’s true about cisgender women’s sexual wellbeing is also true for trans* folks. I think it probably is, and as more research emerges over the coming decade we’ll find out, but in the meantime I want to acknowledge that this is basically a book about cisgender women.


And if you don’t know what any of that means, don’t worry about it.


Second, I am passionate about the role of science in promoting women’s sexual well being, and I have worked hard in this book to encapsulate the research in the service of teaching women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. But I’ve been very intentional about the empirical details I’ve included or excluded. I asked myself, “Does this fact help women have better sex lives, or is it just a totally fascinating and important empirical puzzle?”


And I cut the puzzles.


I kept only the science that has the most immediate relevance in women’s everyday lives. So what you’ll find in these pages isn’t the whole story of women’s sexuality—I’m not sure the whole story would actually fit in one book. Instead, I’ve included the parts of the story that I’ve found most powerful in my work as a sex educator, promoting women’s sexual well being, autonomy, and pleasure.


The purpose of this book is to offer a new, science-based way of thinking about women’s sexual wellbeing. Like all new ways of thinking, it opens up a lot of questions and challenges much preexisting knowledge. If you want to dive deeper, you’ll find references in the notes, along with details about my process for boiling down a complex and multifaceted body of research into something practical.

if you feel broken, or know someone who does



One more thing before we get into chapter 1. Remember how I said we’ve all been lied to, but it’s no one’s fault? I want to take a moment to recognize the damage done by that lie.


So many women come to my blog or to my class or to my public talks convinced that they are sexually broken. They feel dysfunctional. Abnormal. And on top of that, they feel anxious, frustrated, and hopeless about the lack of information and support they’ve received from medical professionals, therapists, partners, family, and friends.


“Just relax,” they’ve been told. “Have a glass of wine.”


Or, “Women just don’t want sex that much. Get over it.”


Or, “Sometimes sex hurts—can’t you just ignore it?”


I understand the frustration these women experience, and the despair—and in the second half of the book I talk about the neurological process that traps people in frustration and despair, shutting them off from hope and joy, and I describe science-based ways to get out of the trap.


Here’s what I need you to know right now: The information in this book will show you that whatever you’re experiencing in your sexuality—whether it’s challenges with arousal, desire, orgasm, pain, no sexual sensations—is the result of your sexual response mechanism functioning appropriately . . . in an inappropriate world. You are normal; it is the world around you that’s broken.


That’s actually the bad news.


The good news is that when you understand how your sexual response mechanism works, you can begin to take control of your environment and your brain in order to maximize your sexual potential, even in a broken world. And when you change your environment and your brain, you can change—and heal—your sexual functioning.


This book contains information that I have seen transform women’s sexual wellbeing. I’ve seen it transform men’s understanding of their women partners. I’ve seen same-sex couples look at each other and say, “Oh. So that’s what was going on.” Students, friends, blog readers, and even fellow sex educators have read a blog post or heard me give a talk and said, “Why didn’t anyone tell me this before? It explains everything!”


I know for sure that what I’ve written in this book can help you. It may not be enough to heal all the wounds inflicted on your sexuality by a culture in which it sometimes feels nearly impossible for a woman to “do” sexuality right, but it will provide powerful tools in support of your healing.


How do I know?


Evidence, of course!


At the end of one semester, I asked my 187 students to write down one really important thing they learned in my class. Here’s a small sample of what they wrote:


I am normal!


I AM NORMAL


I learned that everything is NORMAL, making it possible to go through the rest of my life with confidence and joy.


I learned that I am normal! And I learned that some people have spontaneous desire and others have responsive desire and this fact helped me really understand my personal life.


Women vary! And just because I do not experience my sexuality in the same way as many other women, that does not make me abnormal.


Women’s sexual desire, arousal, response, etc., is incredibly varied.


The one thing I can count on regarding sexuality is that people vary, a lot.


That everyone is different and everything is normal; no two alike.


No two alike!


And many more. More than half of them wrote some version of “I am normal.”


I sat in my office and read those responses with tears in my eyes. There was something urgently important to my students about feeling “normal,” and somehow my class had cleared a path to that feeling.


The science of women’s sexual well-being is young, and there is much still to be learned. But this young science has already discovered truths about women’s sexuality that have transformed my students’ relationships with their bodies—and it has certainly transformed mine. I wrote this book to share the science, stories, and sex-positive insights that prove to us that, despite our culture’s vested interest in making us feel broken, dysfunctional, unlovely, and unlovable, we are in fact fully capable of confident, joyful sex.


•  •  •


The promise of Come as You Are is this: No matter where you are in your sexual journey right now, whether you have an awesome sex life and want to expand the awesomeness, or you’re struggling and want to find solutions, you will learn something that will improve your sex life and transform the way you understand what it means to be a sexual being. And you’ll discover that, even if you don’t yet feel that way, you are already sexually whole and healthy.


The science says so.


I can prove it.


I. I’ll use “they” as a singular pronoun, rather than “he or she” throughout the book. It’s simpler, as well as more inclusive of folks outside the gender binary.
Excerpted from Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski. Copyright © 2015 by Emily Nagoski. Excerpted by permission of Simon & Schuster. All right reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.


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