Monday, June 10, 2013

Not Your Mother's Rules - The New Secrets for Dating by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider - REVIEW

Women looking for love today have it hard. In a world fraught with booty calls, Facebook walls, and everything in between, it's difficult to navigate dating-let alone retain the air of mystery that keeps men interested. Now with the help of their daughters, the original Rules Girls Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider give a thoroughly modern, fresh take on dating that will help women in today's new information age create the happy love lives they want and deserve. The Rules include: 

Don't Talk To or Text a Guy First TTYL: Always End Everything First-Get Out of There! Stay Away From His Facebook Profile Don't Just Hang Out or See Him 24/7 Make Yourself Invisible and Other Ways to Get Out of Instant Messaging And many, many more! Providing the dos and don'ts women need for getting out there now, Not Your Mother's Rules will revolutionize dating today just as much as The Rules did nearly 20 years ago!

My Take:
5+ Stars!
Wow! This is an amazing book, and ALL women who are dating today SHOULD READ THIS BOOK! The rules for dating have changed! Or, at least if you want a 'keeper' of a guy, or are looking for Mr. Right, they have certainly changed! Women, if you want to find that, this book is ESSENTIAL for you to read and follow these rules! 
So what do we owe this NEW set of rules for dating to? Growing up with computers and having cell phones at our beck and call, plus ALL the social media sites we all belong to. There is also the ability of anyone, especially that new guy you just met, to know everything about you by reading it on the computer instead of talking to you, learning about each other face to face, and not on a computer screen. 
Texting is huge, too, and people expect you to text them back immediately. If you don't, you are getting another text immediately after, asking if you received the previous one. In a way, almost ALL of your privacy today is gone, too. What about time to yourself? That is almost non-existent today, at least from what I see with my kids. Wait! Slash that! Young adults and adults!
I can say this because I did not grow up with all of this technology, and I can see it interfering with my own kids. Facebook, Twitter, Google+, ALL of the other Social Media sites fall prey to finding Mr. Right, too, and then when you think you might have found him, everything MUST change! You want to KEEP him, not drive him away, or sound like you are an easy catch. Some of the old-fashioned ways still ring true to today, but there are special ways of doing it, which is what this book teaches us.
A lot of people today tend to be very public about their lives on the social media sites, and this is not always a good thing. They give a lot about your life away. Why not save some of this and keep part of your life private/mysterious? There is a lot to say for getting to know a person one on one instead of reading about them on the computer these authors tell and teach us.
It seems today it's expected you will jump and reply to text messages, or posts immediately. This makes having a little time to yourself non-existent. It also takes away 'the chase' while dating. Women, you want to control the dating situation, and find a keeper, or Mr. Right, and there is a certain way of doing this, which is what these authors have mastered! Now they are here to teach you how to do it. It may make you have to learn to change a lot of your ways, but it IS SO WORTHWHILE!
I have to say this book surely opened my eyes to the dating world today, and it should open the eyes of the women who are dating today as well. Hopefully it will help your children who are going to be dating soon, too. This is just as great a book for them, too.
I never gave the information in this book ANY thought prior to reading it. I never thought about the repercussions my children could suffer from while trying to date. I did not grow up with computers and cell phones, so these things in this book were quite shocking to me, but understandable now. 
This book is a GREAT way to take control of the dating scene, and YOU control it! The authors of this book teach you how to do it, and they give great examples by having real women with real issues submit questions to them, and the authors answer their questions and give more scenarios. 
ALL you mothers out there, if you have daughters out there who are old enough to be dating, you are a dinosaur just like me! Most of us did not grow up with computers, tablets, or cell phones, and we really do not know what it is like to date today. This book was a huge eye-opener for me, and I think it will be for you, too!
Moms, PLEASE BUY THIS BOOK FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS! You really should read it too, or buy two copies, one for yourself, and one for them. You can help them along, if they are open to having you help them! It will give you a LOT of insight into what your daughters are going through, (you won't believe what they go through!) and maybe when they have a weak moment, you can step in and help them along the way, too. 
It is never easy to change yourself or the way you do things overnight, nor is it expected. Women may break a few rules along the way, or get stuck in a few awkward positions of not knowing what to do, but in time The Rules will be memorized! (LOL!) 
I read the ebook version, however, I suggest getting the paperback copy of this book only for the ease of flipping it open to the places you have bookmarked easier than it is on the e-reader you have. I'm SURE you will want to write notes in the columns, too, at least I woud have like to have done that! It's your choice.
I HIGHLY recommend this book! I cannot sing the praises of this book any higher! It's a MUST HAVE for today's times. Yes, dating HAS changed that much! ENJOY! I received this book for FREE from Grand Central Publishing through NetGalley, in exchange to read and write a review about it. It is NOT required for this review to be either positive or negative, but of my own honest opinion. "Free" means I was provided with ZERO MONIES to read this book nor to write this review, but to enjoy the pure pleasure of reading it. I am disclosing this information in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255, Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

Not Your Mother's Rules: The New Secrets for Dating (The Rules) by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
Print Book: $10.98
Ebook:       $  8.89

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